Emotional Impact

The Emotional Impact of Going Through the Divorce Process

Divorce should always be a last resort for a number of different reasons. One reason, of course, is the reason for the marriage in the first place. Do you remember what it was? Can you recall any of the good times? If so, then there may be something worth saving. If not, however, a divorce may be your only option, and to get from here to there, you will need to follow a number of steps as outline by the law, and you will also need to consider others who may be affected by your decision before consulting a Newport Beach divorce attorney.

Things to Consider in the Divorce Process

  • Children – They are affected by divorce more so than the two original parties.
  • Property – Depending upon the judge involved and the ‘ownership’, your property will be split, sometimes evenly.
  • Finances – At least one individual may be required to pay spousal support to the other depending on the situation in question. If there are children involved, the parent awarded custody will be ordered child support from the other parent. The amount will be determined by a judge, and based upon the income of the individual in question, as well as the specific needs of the children.

If you feel that a divorce is the only option, then your first step would be to file a petition stating the grounds for this action. There are some states that allow for no-fault grounds, and others will require the cause to be stated. In certain states, adultery or abandonment are still acceptable grounds for divorce. To get more information on the ‘fault’ laws, make sure you speak with your Newport Beach divorce lawyer.

It was mentioned earlier that the divorce process should only be enacted as a last resort and we still cling to that sentiment for good reason. The process can take an emotional toll on both individuals as well as the children. Not only will you be losing the love of your life, you will also be forced to traverse an endless stream of paperwork in the process. It’s never fun, and frankly, it can leave long lasting emotional scars. Contrary to popular belief this is not something that you just ‘get over’. At one point, this person you are now with was thought to be the love of your life – the person that you were going to be with forever. Maybe you can identify what happened between here and there, or maybe you have no idea. Either way, you’re in for an emotional roller coaster.

Going Through the Process With a Divorce Attorney

If you want the process to go smoothly, it will be important for you to refrain from arguing with your partner as much as possible. In addition to that, make sure you heed the temporary orders handed down by the judge overseeing your case. If there are children involved, a temporary order of child custody will be handed down, and at some point, it will be reviewed. If your intentions are to gain permanent custody of your children, refrain from doing anything that might be viewed as dangerous, such as consuming drugs or alcohol during the time that the temporary orders stand. Anything you do could come back to haunt you later on, so do keep that in mind. Unfortunately, there are really no ‘happy divorces’, no matter how much one person in the equation likes to say there is. These proceedings will have a long lasting effect on both of you, and with that being the case, make sure you think twice before you do anything, both before and after you pull the trigger on the proceedings.

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